When Purity Became Controversial — A Reflection on Virginity, Value, and the End Times

I never thought a day would come when people would start downplaying virginity. But here we are.

Recently, I came across a post on X that stopped me in my tracks. The user wrote,

“Virginity is a social construct and should not hold any value.”

What shocked me even more was the number of people agreeing with it.
I sat there thinking, When did sex stop being sacred?
When did sexual purity become something to mock openly?

I couldn’t stay silent.
I replied with this:

“If you lose yours, don’t gaslight people. Because virgins can choose to be like you in a moment, but you cannot be like them.”

That statement came from a place of truth.
Not shame.
Not judgment.
Just the truth.

Last month, after I wrote about teaching teenagers sexual purity, a young boy reached out to me.
He said his classmates were making him feel bad, telling him he was missing out on something big.
They laughed at him.
Mocked him.
Tried to convince him that virginity was outdated.

I told him, “You are the real deal.”
I said, “Don’t let anyone make you feel small for choosing purity. They want to be like you, but they can’t. You, however, could be like them in a moment, but you choose not to. That’s strength. That’s dignity. Wear it with pride.”

We talked for a while.
He asked me, “Sir, is it really worth it?”
I said, “Yes. Not just for your future spouse, but for God. For yourself. For your peace.”

And I reminded him virginity is not just for girls.
Boys too are called to honor God with their bodies.

The Pledge That Stayed With Me

When I was in junior secondary school, a group came to speak to us about sexual purity.
They handed out booklets, and inside was a personal pledge.
I don’t remember everything, but one line stayed with me:

“I want to have a marriage that doesn’t carry the memories of other sexual partners. I want a clean and pure sexual relationship with my life partner.”

That line pierced me.
It planted something in me.
And even now, I still believe in it.

The reason many people still go out searching for sexual satisfaction, even after marriage, is that they’re chasing something they lost.
They’re haunted by memories.
They’re comparing.
They’re longing.

But God never said sex was bad.
In fact, He created it.
He gave us those urges, those feelings, but they were designed to be exercised within the bonds of marriage.

“Marriage should be honoured by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” — Hebrews 13:4

The devil will tempt you.
He’ll make it look harmless.
But once you yield, it leaves you damaged, emotionally, spiritually, and sometimes physically.

Your body is God’s temple.
Honor Him by keeping it pure.

“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own.” — 1 Corinthians 6:19

Pastor Kingsley’s Words That Hit Home

I recently watched a clip by Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo.
He spoke about sexual compatibility and how people often say, “I’m not enjoying intimacy with my partner.”

His response was simple and profound:

“Compared to who?”

If you’ve never had any sexual experience before marriage, there’s no comparison.
No haunting memories.
No mental battles.
Just you and your spouse, building something fresh, sacred, and beautiful.

So to every young adult reading this,
Virginity is valuable.
Not just before God, but even in society, despite what the world says.

Keep it.
Not for your intended partner.
Not for applause.
But for God.
For yourself.

Look forward to the day you offer your purity to God within the bonds of marriage,
And create memories that don’t carry the shadows of past partners.

This Is Proof of the Times We’re In

Everything the Bible says about the end times is unfolding before our eyes.
We see perverse thought processes, foolish teachings, and a generation that calls good evil and evil good.

“Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness.” — Isaiah 5:20

So be ready.
Be watchful.
Be anchored.

“Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.” — Matthew 5:8

A Call to Return

If you’ve strayed, or you’ve never made peace with God, this is your moment.

Say this prayer sincerely:

Father, I come to You today as a sinner. I acknowledge my wrongs. I ask for Your mercy. I believe that Jesus died for me and rose again. I accept Him as my personal Lord and Savior. Help me to live for You. Fill me with Your Spirit. I am Yours, now and forever. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

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